Make A Change

In most books on parenting you will find the phrase “Choose your battles wisely”, but it is equally important in living a calmer, more relaxed, contented lifestyle. This idea suggests that life is filled with opportunities to choose between making a big deal out of something, getting stress out. Or simply letting go, relaxing, staying calm an realizing it really does not matter!
You see if you choose your battles, your confrontations wisely, you will be far more effective in winning or solving those that are truly important.

There will be times certainly when you will want or need to argue, debate, confront, or even fight for something you really believe in.

You see, many people, however argue, confront, fight and of course get super stress out over practically anything. Turning their lives into a series of battles, fires or crisis over relatively minor stuff. There is intense frustration in living this type if lifestyle. You usually lose track of what is truly relevant and you fall vulnerable to others and more stressful situations.

The smallest disagreement, glitch or ‘monkey wrench’ thrown in your plans can be made in to a very big deal if your focus or goal (unconscious or conscious) is to have everything work out in your favor. In my experience, this is nothing more than a strategy for unhappiness, frustration and increased stress..

The reality check here is, life is rarely exactly the way we want it to be and other people at often times don’t act as we would like. From moment to moment, there are parts of life that we like and are comfortable with. While other parts and times we don’t like. Truly there are always going to be those people, friends or family or who ever, who disagree with you. People are unique, which is good, have a mind of their own and do things differently. Making life and people more interesting.

If you chose to be against this life principle, it is like swimming up stream, this gets you nowhere and you will spend most of your precious life fighting battles and never winning.

May I suggest a more peaceful way to live, this is to consciously decide right now which battles are really worth fighting and which are better left alone.

You see if your primary goal is not to have everything work out perfectly but instead “going with flow” the flow of nature and empowerment, to live a calmer, stress-free life , you’ll find that most battles do pull you away from your most tranquil feelings and re quite a bother.

Is it really important that you prove to a friend that you are right they are wrong, or that you must confront someone simply because it looks like there was a minor mistake made?

There is always times when saying something assertive is far better then aggressive.

There are thousands of examples of small petty things that many people spend their lives fighting about.

Make your own list, you might want to reevaluate your true priorities.

To have that calmer life style that you deserve, and healthier relationships you want to enjoy it’s critical to choose your battles wisely.

I know that there will come a day when like me you’ll rarely feel the need to do battle at all. A calmer more relaxed life is wonderful and obtainable.